We are updating our home. We bought it nearly a year ago (man does time fly – hasn’t felt like a year here in Cali). At the time we were looking to buy a home here in this area, there were 12 on the market. Yes only 12 that somewhat fit our desires. We bought the one that best fit our needs (and was within our budget) and was in an ideal location. After all, it’s all about location. The house was well cared for but never updated since it was built in the early 80’s.
Fresh paint, some new flooring and a few small remodeling projects (added a bedroom using the game room space and removed two wet bars so far). Still lots more to do but it takes time and money so the process is slow.
One of the updates is new baseboard. The existing baseboard was small, cracking and had seen a lot of abuse. The new baseboard is larger and stronger.
Its amazing what a new base can do. The new baseboard makes the rooms seem stronger.
I’m working on a new base. Sometimes I think our lives can get a little outdated. Our routines start to feel safe and we get used to them so we leave them alone and after a while we just get comfortable so we don’t update.
Removing the old baseboard and flooring created a huge mess, not to mention a lot of debris. It had to be done because the previous owners had a dog – that’s all I’ll say about that. It was stressful but after it was gone it was freeing. It’s the same when we start dismantling our routines. Its uncomfortable and can lead to discovering problems that were hidden beneath. There is debris.
Last week I made some very poor choices with my words and actions. I hurt friends. Basically I pissed on things and people I love. (see comment about the previous owners and their dog). I didn’t do it intentionally – honestly I just had too much pile up and couldn’t hold it anymore. But the result is me pulling up the old base and laying a new one. There is a lot of debris. Still updating my base will make me stronger.
The new base will affect how I interact with people and friends. It will allow me to let my kids have more freedom with their diabetes to develop additional independence. It will mean less helicoptering in general. (see Helicopter parent here if you don’t get the reference) It will mean truly starting to make ME a priority – finding time to exercise, changing some eating habits, drinking more water and asking others if they want help rather than simply assuming they do ( < this one is really huge for me and might be the hardest one for me to update).
Not sure if this makes any sense but its my blog and I can be confusing and ambiguous if I want to. When I started my blog I started it to clear my head and hold myself accountable. Sharing this helps me hold me accountable.