Day 6 Health Activists Writers Month Challenge
Today’s Challenge – Write a letter an older you (tell us what age you’re writing to!) What do you want to ask yourself? What lesson do you want to make sure you remember?
I write as a caregiver – as a parent of 3 kids (2 with type 1 diabetes).
Dear 44-year-old me, (yes this is only 5 years away but it will be a pivotal year for me and for my oldest child with type 1)
Do not be scared. What the hell am I suggesting – of course you’re terrified. Let’s try this again – get up off your shower floor where you have been sitting crying so that your family can’t hear you. Get dressed and maybe choose something blue for diabetes awareness. You got this but more importantly she’s got this.Today your oldest will leave for college. This day is scary and sad and exciting for nearly all parents but yes it is scarier for you. She will be fine. You have supported her well. You have taught her all you can and she is ready. She is smart, she is strong, she is independent and she is a mini you but without the insecurities. She is an advocate for herself and for others. She has never accepted defeat and that wont change when she isn’t under your roof. You knew this day would come and you have put every ounce of yourself into making sure she would be successful, safe and happy. You wont be able to protect her from everything. Boys will break her heart. Girls will still be ugly. She will stay out too late and oversleep. She will procrastinate with her studies and cram for exams. So did you and you turned out just fine. She has all the tools she needs to be successful and safe. She will still bring laundry home and you will do it because you’ve missed her. She might change her hair color, get her ears double pierced, or maybe even a tattoo – you will roll your eyes but secretly wished you had got a tattoo when you were young, skinny and looked good in a bikini. She will call to ask for money and you will babble on about responsibility but in the end you will add money to her account regardless. She will be fine. She will miss you and she will call. When she does don’t ask about diabetes first.
She is braver than you believe, smarter than you think and stronger than she seems.
Let her go – it’s time to share her with the world – she will be
PS. Don’t go smothering your boys after she leaves. It will drive them insane.